EMDR can be used for a variety of concerns, experiences and memories. It can also be used effectively for codependency! Read on to learn more about how EMDR is used for folks who struggle with codependent behaviors or people pleasing and get to the bottom of what these behaviors are attempting to do for you.

I’m of the mindset that people do not do things for “no reason”. So, in the spirit of this lens, I view this cycle of over-scheduling, and taking on more work as a way of attempting to solve a problem.

Recognize how it impacts you. That means, take a second to think about what striving for perfection has cost you. Maybe it cost you time spent with loved ones or doing something fun because you were worrying about how to seamlessly complete a task.

Do you find yourself thinking things like “there’s no point asking for help because I’ll just have to do it myself” or “they never do it the right way so I’ll just do it to save myself time later”?

If you relate, there’s an explanation. This can be related to the theme of responsibility which is a common type of response for folks who experienced parentification as a child. Parentification is when kids/tweens/teens are given the responsibilities of an adult.