As a mom, it's essential to recognize the importance of taking time alone to recharge and nurture your own well-being. By taking time alone, away from kids and partners, moms can start to remember and sense into who they are as a person, not just as a mom.

Practice saying out loud that "the bad doesn't erase the good". Simply put, there will be moments where you question your sanity. There may be increased tantrums, maybe potty accidents even in a kid who hasn't had any in a while.

In the garden of our minds, the seeds of our experiences are sown during our early years. These seeds, representing events and the messages we receive, are often beyond our control.

Many moms find themselves feeling overwhelmed, burned out, and struggling to prioritize their own needs. They often feel trapped, unable to express their true emotions and assert themselves without feeling guilty or facing potential consequences.

I’m of the mindset that people do not do things for “no reason”. So, in the spirit of this lens, I view this cycle of over-scheduling, and taking on more work as a way of attempting to solve a problem.

Do you find yourself thinking things like “there’s no point asking for help because I’ll just have to do it myself” or “they never do it the right way so I’ll just do it to save myself time later”?

If you relate, there’s an explanation. This can be related to the theme of responsibility which is a common type of response for folks who experienced parentification as a child. Parentification is when kids/tweens/teens are given the responsibilities of an adult.

One of my favorite ways to regulate my emotions or self soothe when I’m feeling overwhelmed, on guard, or tense is to use a butterfly hug (tapping) with a very short visualization.