In the garden of our minds, the seeds of our experiences are sown during our early years. These seeds, representing events and the messages we receive, are often beyond our control.

Many moms find themselves feeling overwhelmed, burned out, and struggling to prioritize their own needs. They often feel trapped, unable to express their true emotions and assert themselves without feeling guilty or facing potential consequences.

Myth: You Must Commit to Meeting Weekly or More With Your Therapist

My Take: I’ve heard this from a lot of people that you have to be able to meet weekly or even twice a week in order to do emdr. Not true. Again, I wouldn’t withhold CBT from someone if their schedule or financial situation prevented them from being seen weekly. It’s not accurate, and it’s not right to tell people that they “must” spend a specific amount of time or money to deserve treatment and healing. And, this can be seen as yet another way the mental health field/industry is gatekeeping wellness and it disproportionately affects lower SES and BIPOC folks.

Do you find yourself thinking things like “there’s no point asking for help because I’ll just have to do it myself” or “they never do it the right way so I’ll just do it to save myself time later”?

If you relate, there’s an explanation. This can be related to the theme of responsibility which is a common type of response for folks who experienced parentification as a child. Parentification is when kids/tweens/teens are given the responsibilities of an adult.

One of my favorite ways to regulate my emotions or self soothe when I’m feeling overwhelmed, on guard, or tense is to use a butterfly hug (tapping) with a very short visualization.

EMDR can be used for a variety of concerns, experiences and memories. It can also be used effectively for codependency! Read on to learn more about how EMDR is used for folks who struggle with codependent behaviors or people pleasing and get to the bottom of what these behaviors are attempting to do for you.

You’ve probably heard about EMDR Therapy, but what is “resourcing”? Simply put, it’s a shorthand for Phase 2 EMDR Therapy work which involves finding a person’s most tolerable window to reprocess and focuses on their ability to regulate and calm their system (so that reprocessing can take place safely!)

Want to know more about how EMDR Therapy is done online? Allie explains the components of EMDR Therapy and what it looks like to do therapy eye movement online.